5 Little-Known Factors That Could Affect The Romance in Your Marriage or Relationship

Finding love is somewhat like auditioning for a part in a love story. You look your best, you're on

the best behavior because you want the part.

You've been auditioning for a while, it finally paid off. Right?

After landing the part and now in the show, you're no longer consistent.

You might feel like grooming yourself, but chances are you won't. 

Why bother? You landed the role of being the spouse or significant other. The work is done, right? Wrong. 

There are some factors that could affect the romance in your marriage or relationship. In this post, the guide deals specifically with women.

The mistake we make 100% of the time is that we unconsciously let ourselves go, thinking we no longer have to compete for the matchup.

We get too comfortable, in other words. Dr. Phil says this is "being lazy in a relationship." When this happens, the physical attraction grows stale and eyes begin to wander. 

In reality, men are more prone to stray than women. And while women will stray too, she's more prone to cheat only after being humiliated by a cheating husband.

However, there's always the exception to the rule...which means every now and then you'll find the wayward woman who throws herself into a life of sexual promiscuity. 

The reality is even if everything is perfect, some people will cheat simply because it's what they want to do.

Others are weak to temptation or peer pressure from friends and colleagues. But there are things you can do to make cheating or even the thought of it extremely difficult.


Five ways to keep the "strays" away from your marriage or relationship 

Be the surprise he fantasizes about. 

When he comes through the door, meet him wearing the most provocative lingerie you can find.

Have some mellow jazz serenading in the background, run him a hot bath, lay out a nice light romantic meal--nothing too heavy, maybe some fresh strawberries and some chocolate to dip them into, a nice cheese, some olives and a lot of wine.

Make the evening so fabulously exotic that it takes him weeks to recover.  After all, this is probably similar to what you did to get him...now make sure you keep him. 

Someone else is out there waiting for the opportunity to use the same bait to steal him away. And they may not be so careless. 

Be irreplaceable. 

They say anybody can be replaced. I say yes and no. 

Sure we sometimes have to make an adjustment if a spouse dies or in the case of divorce.

And even then, the person isn't replacing the one you lost, they just happen to be the one you choose to move forward with. 

But enough of that. Make sure you're relevant in every part of his life. You bake the best bread, keep an immaculate house, you love the games he loves, you keep him washed, starched and ironed.

Don't be one of those women who is afraid for their man to look good. Be the woman who makes sure he both looks and feels good. 

And this will make you the woman he thinks about for all his needs, whether it's clean stocks or fantastic, tender and romantic sex. 

Be confident and comfortable in your own skin. 

Women sometimes feel vulnerable and insecure in today's world of generic beauty. 

Wives of 10 years often feel they can't compete with silicon-pumped breasts and padded butts. 

Never panic. Don't let him see you sweat. Many times he won't look the other way until he sees you looking fearfully in that direction. 

Confidence is electric. Love yourself and he will too. 

If you have kids, be the best mother since Mother Theresa and the best wife since "Leave it to Beaver." 

Men really get off on their woman's ability to be a dynamite mother, a fabulous cook, a superb housekeeper. In other words, he loves a fiery spirit who turns him on while simply reading a book. 

You gotta have your mind, body and spirit together.

Look good, think and respond well, while maintaining a peace, inside and out.

This means you have to keep yourself in shape --no lying around on the sofa all day eating yourself into his nightmare.

This was a long list, and you probably think you'll need a cape to pull it off. But it really comes down to what you want. 

Build him up. 

Never say demeaning things to him. 

He won't forget the piercing words you say to him in the heat of anger. 

His heart begins to turn the moment you tell him you could have done better than marrying him. You might find yourself looking for that prospect.

Treat him like the king he is. Men carry their families on their backs. They always worry if their best will be good enough. Instead of nagging, try bragging.

Marriage and relationships are contests, there's always competition. 

To retain your place as the love of his life and the mother your kids adore, you have to be the engine that makes it all run smoothly. 

This is how golden anniversaries are made.

Marriages and relationships end for a lot less than the absence or presence of some of the things mentioned above.

Kids pay the price for their parent's inability to endure the hard parts.

It's easy to leave a relationship, but getting to know a new person is hard. Staying with the spouse or partner you've had for eight years is the safe and best thing to do.

Unless you're being physically abused or otherwise misused, verbally disrespected and oppressed--why not take some steps to turn his head all over again and build a stronger relationship.

Researched and compiled by the blog author.

Copyright © 2015 by Peggy Hatchet James